How To Prepare For His Release


This post is specifically for the friends and family of John Cecil. But it’s also for anyone who has a loved one coming home soon. John has been incarcerated for the past 20 years. In 33 days and a wake-up, he’ll be returning to society dehumanized, demoralized, a little out-of-touch, and extremely bitter.

Don’t be surprised if he chooses to squat against the living room wall rather than sit in a chair. If you notice the days on the calendar are X’ed out, just ignore it. And don’t trip on him for wearing flip-flops in the shower.

For the first few months until he is house broken, you can expect the following :

*Excessive use of toilet paper.
*Excessive flushing of the toilet.
*Clogging the toilet.
*Eating meals super fast.
*Stealing food from the kitchen and hording it in his room.
*Making pruno in his closet.
*Hiding extra linen and towels under his mattress.
*Dipping Q-Tips in your perfume and swabbing a 25watt bulb after ripping ass during quiet time.
*Wearing earplugs and a beanie to bed.

In the event you witness any of the above actions, it would be best if you take into consideration the crude environment in which he just lived in for the past two decades, and afford him a generous allowance.

Here are some other things to be mindful of:

*Don’t walk too close behind him.
*He’ll drop the soap on purpose. DO NOT pick it up for him.
*Don’t look into his room, just keep on walking.
*Don’t make a big deal outta him eating his entire meal with a spork.
*Look the other way when he rolls up his pancakes, dips them in syrup, and eats them with his fingers.
*When you turn on a light, he might stand for count. Just say ,”one, two” and he should go back to what he was doing.
*He’ll probably cut his hair in the bathroom and leave a mess. Unless your looking for a fight, just ignore it, or clean it up yourself.

Yes. A convict is coming into your life. Be prepared to deal with the host of bad habits that will accompany him. If all else fails, and he gets to be too much, send his ass back to prison. Simply slam the car door on your face and tell the cops he did it. They’ll believe you over a convicted fellon any day.

Have a great day.




Author: Steven & Suzie Jennings

She was raised as a Mormon, and he is a convict serving 43 years in prison. This blog offers a glimpse into two vastly different worlds that somehow came crashing together. Join them on their journey through prison life & married life.

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  1. I liked what you had to say until the last 2 sentences…

    NEVER EVER call the cops on a loved one just because you feel you can’t handle the situation unless there is the undeniable intent of violence and there is absolutely no other possible recourse. Instead remove yourself from the premises and wait it out.

    When law enforcement arrives, at the very least your ex-inmate will become the victim and face further dehumanization; their pasts will be pillaged, and attempts will be made to recast them as a dangerous person needing to -reincarcerated.

    On average, police shot and killed someone who was in mental crisis every 36 hours in the first six months of 2015. Since January 2015, more than 1,100 fatal shootings by on-duty police officers, with one in four involving someone who was either in the midst of a mental health crisis or was explicitly suicidal. . . . in half of those cases, the officers involved were not properly trained to deal with the mentally ill, and face it, after years of incarceration, ex-cons suffer from mental anxiety and instability when they enter the outside world.

    Worse still is putting your ex-inmate in the position of being killed with one of the excuses which are now so prevalent “I feared for my life” “He had a weapon” “He reached for my weapon” “He had something in his pocket” “He stepped forward” and the latest “I have ear problems and didn’t understand what he said”

    Officers will argue the shooting was in keeping with their training, in effect, they accomplished their mission even if there is video proving there was no evidence of threat. It’s sick how undertrained and incompetent our police are! They should be trained to deal with different types of people and situations and be able to control their guns and emotions.

    However, since most police operate under policy not law and respond with tactics which quickly make a volatile situation even more dangerous, calling them will most certainly cause you a lifetime of sorrow and regret, knowing if you’d just waited before for making that 911 call your loved one would be safe.


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