Unexpected Kindness


I thought I’d start off my blog with a story of gratitude.

I went to visit Steven. We hadn’t seen each other or spoken on the phone in over a month. Our main communication is through writing letters & emails. This visit was long over-due and we had a WONDERFUL time. We always cherish the times we have together.

On this particular day there was an event called, “Family Fun Night” and we were not on the list to attend. So we had to cut our visit short. The visiting room sergeant approached us when it was time for us to say our goodbyes. We did. Saying goodbye and not knowing when we’ll see one another next…that is always the hardest part for us.

Steven disappears through the back door, and just as I’m passing the guards desk to exit, the sergeant pulls me aside. I’m immediately thinking, “Oh crap, he saw us sneak some kisses!”

During visits, we are only allowed a quick five second hug and a brief kiss at the beginning & end of each visit. We may hold hands for the duration. Of course we do that. We take holding hands to the extreme! But there is no kissing or caressing of any kind allowed.

The sergeant is friends with Steven, and throughout our visits he randomly stops at our table to chit chat. He’s a friendly man, and we are friendly in return. He knows we are newlyweds and that I am from out of state. So he says he’ll let us attend the event. Just like that. I can stay!

OMG…that meant 5 extra hours in the company of my husband. Yay!

The sergeant picked up the phone and told someone to have “Jennings” come back to the visiting room. I was shocked and excited at the same time. I rarely run into kind people out in society who would do such a selfless act of kindness, let alone in a prison visiting room. There truly is kindness in the most unexpected places.

I went back to the table and waited for Steven. The smile on his face as he re-entered the room was indeed a memorable one. I love to see my husband happy. It makes me happy. We spent the rest of the afternoon and evening together.

Our time together is so precious. We are able to connect, laugh, learn each other’s mannerisms, and see body language that we don’t get via letters or phone calls. We store these happy moments in our memory.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you Sgt. DeHaven for your kindness. I will never forget this. You truly helped make this a memorable day.



Suzie Jennings


Author: Steven & Suzie Jennings

She was raised as a Mormon, and he is a convict serving 43 years in prison. This blog offers a glimpse into two vastly different worlds that somehow came crashing together. Join them on their journey through prison life & married life.

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